We all have someone in our lives with whom we feel we can share all of our thoughts and secrets. Usually it is a member of our family, or a schoolmate whose friendship has endured through the decades. These people have usually seen us at our best and at our worst, and they have been right there by our sides to see us through it all. Such friends and family share in the triumphs and suffer through the sorrows. There are no ulterior motives.
Many of us also have friends we have known for quite some time, who are always open and friendly, but never really help carry the burden when the going gets tough. Or we have family members who suddenly pop into our lives from seemingly nowhere.
How many of these people do you trust? Would you trust them with your life? Can you trust them with a secret? Or do you trust no one?
Be careful who you trust – your welfare may depend upon it
When it comes to matters of great importance, we must be very cautious with our secrets. How many times have you heard stories of the trusted caregiver stealing his or her elderly charge blind? Suddenly a helpless senior citizen with no family to speak of is left destitute, their life’s savings stolen from them by the very person who was supposed to care for them.
Or, how many times have you seen one person suddenly befriend another, only because they wanted something they couldn’t otherwise attain? Remember Selena, the singer? Her trusted manager and friend not only stole from her, but she eventually killed her.
How do you know who you can trust, or if you even should? In cases of close family, you most likely already know who has stood by you through it all and who has not. However, when it comes to other people, use caution and trust your judgment.
Research their intentions and past, easily and legally
If you feel someone has befriended you because they want something from you, play detective and try to find out what that person’s wants and needs are. Learning what they lack in their life may very well hold the key to what they are looking for from you – giving you the knowledge to protect yourself and your assets.
If you suspect your newfound friend is in financial trouble, try looking into court records to see if any bankruptcies have been filed, or any judgments have been made against that person. Look for property foreclosures, IRS or other tax liens, or court-ordered wage garnishments. Try to determine if your friend has a gambling problem.
On the other hand, you may suspect your new friend is a thief, or running from someone. A personal background check should reveal secrets about your friend’s life, including any criminal misconduct.
Most of this investigation can be done via the Internet by searching public records. However, you may have to dig into many different databases to get the answers you want. If you are looking for an easy, quick way to search an individual’s true history, an online background check service, such as Info Tracer or Spokeo are affordable way to search all available databases from one location.
Looking into someone’s past may not seem necessary, but it will be well worth it if it saves you the headache of a stolen identity or an empty bank account. It will also be worth it if you are able to forge one of those rare, lifelong friendships.